HOW TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU...
SIMPLE HACKS TO INCREASE YOUR POPULARITY AMONGST PEOPLE.
To make people like you is not an easy task but don’t worry about it anymore as I will break down the rules by applying which you can make people respect your ideology and way of thinking towards life and work.
Now, many people may tell you whatever I discuss but believe me I will try to keep to the point and will stand upto your point of understandability.
1. DO THIS, AND YOU WILL BE WELCOMED ANYWHERE
you can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
if we merely try to impress people and get people interested in us, we will never have many real, sincere friends.
Friends, real friends, are not made that way.
IT is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the most significant difficulties in life provides the greatest injury to others.
It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.
If we want to make friends, let’s greet people with animation and enthusiasm.
we are interested in others when they are interested in us.
A show of interest,
as with every other principle of human relations
must be sincere.
It must pay off not only for the person showing the interest,
but for the person receiving the attention.
It is a two-way street – both parties benefit.
If you want others to like you
and to develop real friendships,
if you’re going to help others at the same time as you help yourself,
keeps this principle in mind;
PRINCIPLE#1 – BECOME GENUINELY INTERESTED IN OTHER PEOPLE.
2. A SIMPLE WAY TO MAKE A GOOD FIRST IMPRESSION.
And a smile says, ‘I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.’
That is why dogs make such a hit.
they are so glad to see us that they almost jump out of their skins.
So, naturally, we are glad to see them.
A sly grin? No.
That doesn’t fool anybody.
We know it is mechanical and we resent it.
I am talking about a real smile,
a heartwarming smile,
a smile that comes from within, the kind of smile that will bring a reasonable price in the Marketplace.
The effect of a smile is compelling – even when it is unseen.
You don’t feel like smiling?
Then what? Do these two things.
First, force yourself to smile.
If you are alone, force yourself to whistle or hum a tune or sing.
act as if you were already happy,
and that will tend to make you make you happy.
Here is the way the psychologist and philosophers William James put it:-
‘Actions seems to follow feelings, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the actions, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.’
‘thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if our cheerfulness is lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there…’
Happiness doesn’t depend on our outside conditions.
it depends on inner conditions.
Whenever you go out-of-doors,
draw the chin in,
carry the crown of the head high,
and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile,
and put soul into every handclasp.
Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies.
‘A man without a smiling face must not open a shop.’
A picture in your mind the able,
the earnest, useful person you desire to be,
And the thought you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular individual… The idea is supreme.
PRINCIPLE#2 – SMILE
3. IF YOU DON'T DO THIS, YOU ARE HEADED FOR TROUBLE
Remember this a name of a person is a most important word in any language.
Most people don’t remember names,
for the simple reason that they don’t take the time and energy necessary to concentrate and repeat and fix names indelibly in their minds.
they make excuses for themselves; they are too busy.
Franklin D. Roosevelt knew that one of the simplest,
most obvious and most important ways of gaining goodwill were by remembering names and making people feel important – yet how many of us do it?
One of the first lessons a politician learns is this: ‘To recall a voter’s name is statesmanship. To forget it is oblivion.’
How to remember someone’s name,
explained for you below:-
Simple, if you didn’t hear the name distinctly,
‘say sorry. I didn’t hear the name clearly.’
Then, if it were an unusual name, he would say,’How is it spelled?’
During the conversation,
take the troubles to repeat the names several times,
and tried to associate it in his mind with the person’s features, expression, and general appearance.
The name sets the individual apart; it makes him or her unique among all others.
The information we are imparting or the request we are making takes on special importance when we approach the situation with the situation with the name of the individual.
From the waitress to the Senior executives, the name will work magic as we deal with others.
PRINCIPLE#3 – REMEMBER THAT A PERSON’S NAME IS TO THAT PERSON THE SWEETEST AND MOST IMPORTANT SOUND IN ANY LANGUAGE
4. AN EASY WAY TO BECOME A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST
‘FEW HUMAN BEINGS’ wrote Jack Woodford in Strangers in love, ‘few human beings are proof against the implied flattery of rapt attention.’
I went further than giving him rapt attention.
I was a ‘hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise.’
Listening is just as essential in one’s home life as in the world of business.
Millie Esposito of Corton-on-Hudson,
New York, made it her business to listen carefully when one of her children wanted to speak with her.
One evening she was sitting in the kitchen with her son, Robert, and after a brief discussion of something that was on his mind,
Robert said:-‘mom, I know that you love me very much.’
Mrs.Esposito was touched and said: ‘Of course I love you very much. Did you doubt it?’
‘No, but I know you love me because whenever I want to talk to you about something, you stop whatever you are doing and listen to me.’
Issac F. Marcosson, a Journalist who interviewed hundreds of celebrities, declared that many people fail to make a favorable impression because they don’t listen attentively.
As the reader’s digest once said:-
‘Many persons call a doctor when all they need is an audience.’
if you want to know how to make people shun you and laugh at your back and even despise you, here is the recipe:
Never listen to anyone for long.
Talk incessantly about yourself.
if you have an idea while the other person is talking, don’t wait for him or her to finish: bust right in and interrupts in the middle of a sentence.
Thes types of people are complete bores, intoxicated with their own egos, drunk with a sense of their own importance.
aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.
The people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.
PRINCIPLE#4 – BE A GOOD LISTENER, ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO TALK ABOUT THEMSELVES.
5. HOW TO INTEREST PEOPLE
Everyone who was ever a guest of Theodore Roosevelt was astonished at the range and diversity of his knowledge.
Whether his visitors was a cowboy or a Rough Rider, a New York politicians or a diplomat,
Roosevelt knew what to say.
And how was it done?
The answer was simple. Whenever Roosevelt expected a visitor,
he sat up late the night before, reading up on the subject in which he knew his guest was particularly interested.
For Roosevelt’s knew, as all leaders know, that the royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most.
Talking regarding the other person’s pays off for both parties.
Howard z. Herzig, a leader in the field of employee communications, has always followed this principle.
when asked what reward he got from it,
Mr. Herzig responded that he not only received a different reward from each person but that in general, the award had been an enlargement of his life each time he spoke to someone.
PRINCIPLE#5 – TALK IN TERMS OF THE OTHER PERSON’S INTERESTS.
6. HOW TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU INSTANTLY
There is one all-important law of human conduct.
If we obey that law, we shall almost never get into trouble.
In fact, the law, if obeyed, will bring us countless friends and constant happiness.
But the very instant we break the law, we shall get into endless trouble.
The law is this: Always make the other person feel important.
John Dewey, as we have already noted, said that the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature; and William James said:
‘The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated .’
As this is the urge which differentiates us from the animals.
It is the urge that has been responsible for civilization itself.
Jesus summed it up in one thought – probably the most important rule in the world:
‘Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.’
You want the approval of those with whom you come in contact.
you want recognition of your true worth.
we want a feeling that you are important in your little world.
you don’t want to listen to cheap, insincere flattery, but you do crave sincere appreciation.
You want your friends and family to be as, Charles Schwab put,
‘hearty in their approbation and lavish in their praise.’
All of us want that.
Remember, what Emerson said:
‘Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.’
‘Talk to people about themselves,’ said Disraeli, One of the shrewdest men who ever ruled the British Empire.
‘Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.’
PRINCIPLE#6 – MAKE THE OTHER PERSON FEEL IMPORTANT – AND DO IT SINCERELY.
I can guarantee you that if you successfully the above-mentioned principles you will definitely get results over a period of time.
be patient about the results and you may be shocked to see what will happen over the period of time.
these principles are from the book ‘HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE’.